Would My Mother Have Chosen Me If She Knew I Was Gay?
My mother once wanted me to be straight. Years later, I asked myself a much more frightening question: If she’d known I would be gay before I was born, would she have chosen me at all? Would My Mother Have Chosen Me If She Knew I Was Gay? In 1997, I was living alone...
The Price of Reinventing Yourself: What I Lost While Becoming Someone Else
Sometimes reinventing yourself changes your life. Sometimes it costs you something you don’t understand until decades later. The Price of Reinventing Yourself: What I Lost While Becoming Someone Else I reinvented myself when I was fifteen years old. And I was...
Coming Out to My Parents—When Everyone Already Knew I Was Gay
What if the lowest point in your life became the beginning of your greatest personal transformation? Coming Out of the Closet I Apparently Wasn’t In Coming Out to My Parents—When Everyone Already Knew I Was Gay I was terrified to tell my mother I was gay. There was...
Childhood Survival Skills That Hurt Us as Adults
The Lies That Save Us—and the Lies That Eventually Own Us I learned to lie as a child. At seventeen, I learned something much more dangerous: sometimes lying works. Childhood Survival Skills That Hurt Us as Adults I have been a liar. There. That’s an excellent way to...